I don’t Understand Women!!!

Ok the title is a red herring, let’s get that out of the way now. It’s more like there’re a few women I don’t get, both of whom have been writing things available on the internet.

The first of these is a lovely woman who wrote a piece for Yahoo Lifestyle entitled “I don’t regret tricking my boyfriend into having kids.”

This is one of the most offensive things I have ever read in my life…this woman is sick; very, very sick and so is the friend who helped her. Go and read it for all the details, but to summarize, she decided she wanted another child, having already had two (from a previous relationship) with her new partner, who had expressly told her that he didn’t want kids.

She and a friend went behind his back and had her Marina coil removed, meaning that they were then involved in a sexual relationship in which he was under the  impression that they were protected against pregnancy when they weren’t or to put it in her words “David and I were trying and he didn’t have a clue.”

The outrageous sickness of this woman is at it’s most potent, in the multiple examples of her attempts to justify her belief that his constant insistence that he didn’t want kids as meaning the opposite. She even attributes and car accident they were in to him being consumed by a desire to have a child. Yeah, given that that’s the only way that anyone ever gets into a car accident eh?

The thing that riled me so much about this was not so much the woman; crazy people are everywhere and a lot of them are concentrated on the Internet. But there were women in the comments section on Yahoo, in active support of her.

There were more than a few excuses made on her behalf that if she wanted another child with her new partner, it was up to her and no one else. These women need to pull their heads out of whatever misguided ridiculous thing-they-think-is-feminism and apply some fucking common sense.

At it’s most basic level, it is not fair to intentionally impose a financial and social burden on someone who has no knowledge that such a burden is being sought, let alone someone who expressly said they didn’t want it.

I have to wonder how these women would feel if the scenario was reversed, if it was David who wanted the kid and tampered with the contraception to knock up crazy lady (who in this scenario is sane) against her will. I guarantee you they’d be demanding his head on a plate.

To close this one out, she ends by saying everything is fine now; they have a son and he’s thrilled…err, given that this woman attributes car crashes to mean male broodiness and the word “no” to mean “yes please, manipulate me into impregnating you” I really have no confidence in her claim that he’s happy about the situation.

The second woman from the Internet that I’m having serious problems understanding is a mother who wrote a piece called “Just one little tattoo” in which she describes the horror of her 21 year old son getting a tattoo when she didn’t want him to and how it’s changed their relationship dramatically given that it’s a symbol of how he no longer cares about what she feels.

Lady, he’s 21, he can do what he wants; he can make decisions independent of you and regardless of what you feel about it.

What strikes me about this woman is how self-centered she is; she seems to think that his getting a tattoo is a direct attack on her viewpoint rather than something he wanted to do. She seems to constantly be twisting events to make herself into the victim.

This attention seeking drama queen needs to step back and take a look at what she’s got. Her particular comment that she was experiencing grief (semantically likening this minor change to her son’s arm to his death) is just offensive. I know more than one person whose outlived their child and for this woman to try and lay some sort of claim to the type of pain that those people went and continue to go through, because her son had some ink injected into his skin is so insulting.

I’ll leave it here to avoid giving this woman any more attention of any kind.